Did you always dread getting feedback? Let’s face it, we hate feedback, regardless whether it is constructive or not. We hate to be told that we are wrong. Even though we know that feedback is instrumental to personal growth. One of the main reasons why we detest feedback so much is because we want to be liked, we want to be accepted and we want to fit in. If someone points out your mistake, you’re doing something that is unacceptable. Which doesn’t feel nice because you are unable to meet the social standards of others and that makes you feel as if you don’t fit in.
Sometimes we might feel like knocking the teeth out of the person who gives us feedback because it feels like he/she is trampling all over your ego. However, if we pause for a moment to think of the perspective of why the other person is going out of his/her way to correct your mistakes, you will start to appreciate the patience, the effort and most importantly the time to help you out. If someone bothers to give you constructive criticism, it signifies that he/she cares enough to help you to be a better version of yourself. But of course, we do not need to bother about the feedback from people who try to put you down because of jealousy. When we start to understand and appreciate the good intentions of others, it translates into being grateful for everything in your lives. Eventually, you become less miserable than you were yesterday.
Feedback has always been the key to all aspects of growth, be it personal growth or academic growth. You will only live up to your potential only if you are willing to accept feedback from others. Because sometimes you might be so blind to your flaws that without criticism, you will never be able to see what you are lacking of. When it comes to academics, feedback comes in the form of doing corrections. You can practice thousands of math questions but if you are not taught the right method to solve it, all your effort will be futile. Once you are more receptive towards feedback, your growth potential increases exponentially. Eventually, what you thought was insurmountable becomes achievable.
To Give Constructive Feedback
Once you have become more attuned to receiving feedback, you will be compelled to help others improve as well. Knowing how it feels to receive feedback for the first time, you would try your best to be less direct in order not to discourage the other party. By doing so, you will take your social skills up a notch as you become more mindful of people’s feelings.
In the past, once I received criticisms I tend to give up quite easily. However, things started to change recently. I did not feel discouraged when I was told to rewrite my article, I did not feel discouraged when I got submitted in Jiu-Jitsu. I was trying to find out the cause of it which led me to write about why we should be more receptive towards feedback. Which is why I implore you to accept feedback and strive to become a better version of yourself.